I have received A LOT of emails in the past several days.
(I’m still digging through the pile, so I’ll eventually get back to you if I haven’t already.)
But a couple emails stuck out to me in particular.
These people were concerned about the feeling of being lost, and as a result are paralyzed by fear. Fear of failing, fear of being embarrassed, fear of the unknown… These were all relatively successful people too. Not teenage high school-ers.
Immediately I identified with these people, who I’m glad had the guts to contact me.
I identified with them because I used to have that feeling. In fact, I don’t know many people who don’t feel that way. I believe that 99% of people are so afraid of failing and being embarrassed that they are completely lost.
They are lost because they don’t know what foot to put in front of the other, so instead of moving forward, they simply exist in the situation that they are currently in.
Whether they’re stuck in some kind of rut that has to do with finances, their job, emotions or their community – it doesn’t matter. The feeling of being stuck (and lost) is simply caused by not having the guts to take forward steps.
It’s scary to move forward! You might fail! Get embarrassed! Get laughed at!
And that’s not it… we are preprogrammed as humans to avoid uncertainty.
Uncertainty means risk. Risk means you might die (or that’s how we evolved), so we avoid risks.
But you and I aren’t animals anymore. We can take risks and not die.
Easier said than done. Right?Another problem is that you and I translate a lot of words to mean “risk.”
Here are several words that we subconsciously process as meaning “this might not work out so well,” and “this word means it may make me stray away from the pack.”
All very risky words… If you do or have any of the above words, you might fail.
So how do you conquer this fear? How do you just say “f@ck it!” and move forward?
For me, it had to get so bad that I couldn’t take it anymore. The fear of my current situation had to be way worse than the fear of failing. This was not an easy thing to do. In fact, it was absolutely terrifying!
I had to confront the thing that was bothering me the most. I had to grab the bull by the horns and decide: ok… what the hell am I doing here? Is this it? Or am I actually going to do something about it?
So what about you? What are you going to do?
Are you 100% completely satisfied with where you are in life? Do you workout enough? Do you save any money? Do you tell the truth to your friends?
DO YOU TELL THE TRUTH TO YOURSELF?
So, how do you annihilate that lost feeling?
You gotta hustle. You gotta want it. You gotta stay up overnight reading, writing and studying.
Turn your damn TV off and get to work. Eat healthy. Work out. Be a freaking machine.
Do what you want, how you want, without any fear.